Chapter 17: Anchoring Yourself To Success
“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.” ~Theodore Roosevelt
I want you to think of summer. Think about the best memories, vacations, and people you’ve experienced during the summer. Think of how all these things made you felt at the time. Now I want you to think of a certain song you were always listening to during those specific vacations with those specific people. Every time you listen to that song now it reminds you of those good times with great people during that summer. And listening to that song at any time will make you feel happy and warm and adventurous.
That specific song is called an anchor. An anchor is the created association of thoughts, feelings, ideas and states with a specific stimulus. We all use anchors in our everyday lives unconsciously. Without even realizing it, that certain song can suddenly take us from being upset to being happy and energetic. That’s because of all the positive memories and feelings our brains have automatically linked to that song.
Just like anything else in this world, positive anchors have a negative counterpart too. We’ve all experienced great days with positive vibes when, all of a sudden, that one song comes on that links your brain to the breakup of someone you once loved. Just like that, a gray cloud surrounds your day. And an anchor can be anything: a song, a certain touch, a look someone gives you, or even the taste of a specific food!
The point of this chapter is to teach you how to successfully summon the positive anchors in your life (or create new ones) to put you in a more positive, powerful and productive state. Additionally, this chapter gives you exercises on how you can neutralize or completely diminish the negative associations you may put on people, places or various objects. Thus, overcoming different obstacles or phobias you’ve created for yourself. Here are the 4 keys to anchoring:
- Intensity of the state: If you want to recreate a specific way you felt at a certain time, your whole body must be involved. Think of how you stood, how you breathed, how your face looked and how your voice sounded when you were in this specific state of feeling. (let’s say happiness)
- Timing (peak of experience): In order to create a successful anchor, let’s say squeezing your fist, you need to know exactly when your feeling of happiness peaked. (let’s say it’s when your heart began to race) When you feel your heart begin to race while recreating that happy state, then you clench your fist.
- Uniqueness of stimulus: This part of the process is simple. DON’T choose an anchor that you experience all the time. (let’s say a goofy look your significant other gives you) Because if he/she gives you that look often or every day, then the power of the anchor is lost and will only confuse your brain.
- Replication of stimulus: The key to making this anchor work is replicating it exactly each time you try it. If you’re trying to recreate the feeling of happiness (state) through clenching your fist (the anchor), you can’t change the pressure of your clench each time you do it. Keep it consistent. Don’t worry it may take a few times of practice to reach its full power!
Now that you have all the information you need to creating an anchor, try it yourself! Once you create one powerful enough that puts you in your desired (hopefully positive) state, you can change the way you feel about any person or situation instantaneously! This tool can help you live a positive, productive, and more successful life… SO PASS IT ON!